He is going to blame you because it's easier than accepting responsibility himself.
It is often better to do nothing, because ANYTHING you do will probably be wrong right now. His anger is justifying everything he is doing right now. You need to try and minimize his anger while still taking care of yourself and the kids - a tough line to walk and far easier said than done.
Michelle - Proud DR Rockette S: 28JUL07, D'd: 29OCT09 http://tinyurl.com/27j9qo2