Hanging out with LBS - Good or Bad?

[lost3031]

I've been a WAW for 4 months now. H and I are still friendly but it's been difficult. We used to see each other at least once a week, but the last two weeks we went cold turkey. It was hard on both of us and has made us both wonder if seeing more of each other might ignite some of the old feelings or confirm that we're doing the right thing, either way making things move along quicker. D has been initiated, and perhaps we're just having second thoughts (cold feet?), but I'm wondering if seeing each other more socially is a good idea or not.

Without going into too much detail about my R history, there were two reasons I left: 1)H is a workaholic and never around, felt like I've lived alone the last 10 years; and 2) I had developed feelings for OM and wanted to sort those out, in addition to figuring out how to repair M.

H, understandably, initially was not interested in spending time together for a while. I got the impression that meant he was not interested in fixing things and began forging a deeper friendship (and I stress the word "friendship") with OM. I know that OM is getting more attached to me and our relationship every day, and I want to get this sorted out ASAP, for all of our sakes.

So I guess my question is, have any of you been in this situation and found that spending more time with LBS actually made you realize that they were really the person you wanted to be with? Or that they weren't the person you wanted to be with? Any advice on how to handle the whole idea of "hanging out" with LBS without either of you getting hurt more? Actually, any advice at all is welcomed as I am a mess...