And the rollercoaster continues #2

[fooled again]

klm,

If you've already given your H an ultimatum and this is how he treats you, then you must take care of yourself. He does not believe you will follow through w/ D or does not care. Either way you must take care of yourself.

I only told you about my thread so you would know how much I can empathize w/ you and not I'm not just dishing out advice. Before I gave my H my Utimatum letter, I had to be sure in my heart that I was not going to cave if he did not follow through w/ my conditions. It was scary, and I'm still scared he can't or won't do it. But I have to be content w/ the belief that being on my own would be better than to continue the madness I was living.

You deserve so much better than this. Just don't let your H play you - they know EXACTLY which buttons to push, which words to say. Be true to yourself & know that you will be fine - it may just take a little while. One thing that really helped me all along was reminding myself that this is not about me, it is about him. Your H does have a problem, but it's not you.

Take care. And maybe try to have fun at the wedding & forget about your H for a few hours.

FA