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I should be happy and not depressed."


I think that's how you should take it and that's how she wants to see you.

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I was just down because of it being my b-day


You should not have let her see down on your B-day. You should have told her you did not feel good because your back hurt and left it at that.

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It is a very vague statement but I will have to go with work because she said "you" and I see no improvements in our R and nothing to make me think things are looking up in that aspect.


I see improvements and I'm sure others do too. She could have let you lay in misery but she did bring you a bit of comfort. She wants you to be happy. She could be wishing death and destruction on you or spitting venom.

No expectations. That's the key.

baby steps and patience.