Start of the long and bumpy road........

[TwinDad]

Another pretty good weekend with many possible pitfalls and traps that a little DB work got me through.

We had briefly talked about getting a new house together thursday night. Going to a much smaller home has been an adjustment for my W. Friday I looked at new places online and kept it to myslef. Firday evening, W comes home nad says she wants all of us to go out to eat and we start driving around looking at houses.

We spent most of Saturday driving around and looking at houses. Saturday evening we went to her brothers house for a crawfish boil and had a good time. On the way there we got in a little tiff about disciplining the children. She is better at it than me but I tend to have more patience. She started with the potential trap by saying Maybe we shouldn't have another child. I just calmly said if that that is what you really want but I have been trying to get better at disciplining them or setting boundaries. I told her the most difficult part I had was knowing when to take over and just do something for the kids and when to let them try it. I guess watching me get the kids ready can be painful for her to watch....because I will let them contineu to try if they want too even if it has gone on way to long.

Also on the way there she digged me again about the size of her engagement ring in that she felt she was short changed because I didn't spend two months salary on it. I told her I would get her a new one tomorrow if that was how she wanted to spend our money. I just thought it might be better spent on either fixing up our house or getting a new one or held in reserves if she was going to start a new career. It did bring a smile on her face and there was no mention of it the next day.....seems like a test to me.

When we were at the crawfish boil, my W and SIL took the kids iside to bath. I had started to bring them some clothes when I oeverheard them talking about our R. I overheard my W saying she realized that she wanted the M and that she needed to work on forgiveness and letting go of resentment.

Sunday we spent looking at houses again. We found a couple we liked. We taalked about them. I think I made some grounds here by not being negative, she gave me opportunities to do so. I did say that I wanted her to be happy and if that meant getting a bigger house but feeling more trapped in her job or staying where we are and having less pressure then I was ok with either as long as she was happy.

Last night I sat down in front of her on the couch and she massaged my face without asking.....it felt very nice. I returned the favor by giving her a nice massage and and little ML session right before bed.

Overall a very nice weekend. If I wasn't such a conservative then I would say my D is busted but I will remain cautiously optimistic for a little while longer