2008 = Crazy Year (Still)

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Lost,

Let me ask you two important questions, and please be honest:

1. Would you be exposing her affair out of anger, or spite? Or doing this as a tool with which to hopefully end her affair and return her to working at your marriage?

2. Are you emotionally prepared for her rage -- directly at YOU -- if you do this?

Just because this worked for me and some others, doesn't mean it's for everybody.

Puppy

Puppy, missed this one. The answers, in all honesty:

1) Exposing would definitely be a tool. I am not wanting her to walk out of my life and I am ready to fight. She has in the past wondered why I haven't done more to show emotion and action - well, this can be a start. I am not at, and hope I do not get back to the anger / spite page; I was there before, but fortunately did nothing at that time (back when I first found out in Feb).

2) Am I ready? Actually, in some ways it will be more of the same. She has already directed much anger my way, and I have lovingly sat by and acknowledged her feelings. Enough is enough - have to start showing a little more backbone I think.

I am struggling with exposing to her family. I have sent a message to OMW; if nothing else, I know WW and OM are in contact by phone. Even if only an EA right now (which makes sense to me), OMW should be made aware, I think.