Lost,

Let me ask you two important questions, and please be honest:

1. Would you be exposing her affair out of anger, or spite? Or doing this as a tool with which to hopefully end her affair and return her to working at your marriage?

2. Are you emotionally prepared for her rage -- directly at YOU -- if you do this?

Just because this worked for me and some others, doesn't mean it's for everybody.

Puppy