When I get riled at or by spouse, I do something physical first, then figure out how to handle the situation.
My mom swears by this little prayer. I of course disdained it. I've used it a few times recently, repeating it over and over, during highly stressful times. "Come to me Holy Ghost." Darn.. something like that. Anyway, it's been a blessing in some of the most emotional situations.
Take deep breaths and think of all you have in life to be grateful for.
Figure out what triggered the anger and check it off the list. I'm doing that with spouse. There's less and less he can use to provoke me or upset me.
Decide what type of person you want to be going in to this, through this and when you get out. I'm choosing to be the best person possible and in the process am learning to not be a doormat or automatically cave if think someone (kids, spouse, friends, lawyer, strangers) doesn't like me.
Get out of your head. Think outside the body. Do instead of fume.
Try that one thing you keep putting off. Doing something special with your little girlie. Go practice your 'man hugs'. Hang out with a friend who makes you laugh. Eat the biggest bowl of chili and fart in a crowded elevator...okay, maybe not that one.
Treat yourself and those around you with quiet respect.
*hugs*
You're a good guy. Remember that.
Anger lasts two seconds. How you deal with it is your choice. Use the force wisely.
