I don't think it could have been the mopping of the floor specifically. I don't think she can turn on a dime that fast. I've been doing more housework for a couple of years now, but I think she felt the same way I did about her attempts at sex--it wouldn't last, she couldn't trust it, it was just something I was doing to spare her feelings.

She is still reading the SSM book, too. We talked yesterday and agreed that we're surprised at how happy we are together now. I don't think either of us realized how unhappy we were before. Now my work is making this last more than a few days.
Last night I was--well, not too tired for sex, exactly, I don't know if that will ever happen again--but tired, and happy. I didn't need sex. I told my wife I was tired and she'd better keep her hands to herself. \:\) She laughed, and if she felt relief at the prospect, at least she didn't let it show. We went to sleep together. It was nice. I think I'm in love.

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He always had this look on his face... too serious ....like he was holding his breath....

Yeah, that's the look. There are all these "remedies" for premature, but I've never made any of them work very well, and none are very sexy. Have you read about any of these ideas? The most famous is called the "Valsalva Technique." You're supposed have normal sex until you begin to feel like you're going to climax, then "bear down" as if attempting to defecate with some difficulty. When I was younger, I made it work while masturbating (just as an experiment to see if it worked) but it rarely works with my wife. It also has the added bonus that in the middle of hot sex with your wife, you stop and do a perfect imitation of a man attempting to poop out a football, after which, 9 times out of 10, you climax anyway (and she's got to be wondering why, since you looked like you were having a stroke a second before.)

So if your husband has ever stopped in the middle of intercourse and made a face at you like he was pooping, understand that he was trying to be sexy for you. Don't ask him why anyone would ever think that was sexy; he doesn't know.

Our final solution to premature ejaculation was to stop worrying about it. That was one problem we were on our way to solving before I read SSM. My wife can't climax from penetration, but she can move mountains with clitoral stimulation, so we almost always end with me giving her head no matter what else we've done. One night she told me "Look, just go ahead and don't hold back. It's not fun for me if you hold back. You always make sure I come anyway." So now that's what I do.

Recovering Sex-Starved Husband.