[/quote] This baffles me too. H seems to feel bad that he is not her 'friend' anymore. I agree that no contact is best for everyone to move on...even the skanky OW! The quicker she is over H the faster she can find another sucker![quote]
MAT,SO2,
This baffles me too. I do think it is best that they cut contact as it gives them the space needed to get over the fantasy of the OW.
H refuses to go to counceling. IF it ever came down to an ultimatum I might request this but for right now i'll leave it alone.
Ow's B-day is coming up and this and Christmas is the only time I allow myself to snoop into the secret hiding spot to see if there are any gifts. If there were H would recieve the ultimatum. Im'e ready for that as I will not put up with the gift giving and he knows it. I am willing to wait a while for him to work out his issues but not the gift giving as that would tell me he is working in there R not ours.
Still being his cheer leader. Haven't had time to ourselves though.
JAK
You don't get to choose how you're going to die. Or when, you can only decide how you're going to live now. ~Joan Baez
