So here are some plus points to selling the house - I think it is good to sell it before people panic even more about the housing 'crisis' and falling house prices. - It is a lot of up keep for me to keep clean on my own as well as holding down a full-time job and commute. - The garden is too much for me, and was for us, and is out of control! - It means I don't have to put up with our annoying neighbours anymore, we both have a mutual hatred for them! - I can move somewhere that is more accessible as I don't drive.
Practical things I think we need to discuss - How much is he willing to help with seeing agents and dealing with the sale practically speaking? - Is he willing to come up and help me get the house ready for sale? Do DIY and snagging stuff. - Is he willing to come up and help me with the garden as it is a real selling point to the house and is a mess. If he wants to just pay a gardener (a typical reaction of his family - money solves everything). I am not really willing to pay halves as if he came up and helped we could do it together in a day and I can't afford a gardener. - How are we going to split our belongings? - Most importantly will we go 50/50 on the proceeds of the sale? - what is going to happen with the cat? Does he want her or should I have her? - he won't want her as she is responsibility but why should I have to take her on, of course I love her and will but it is the principle!
I have lock-jaw with the stress! Does anyone have any ideas about what things I should avoid and what is not important? Also how to phrase the discussion?
He always got wound up by the housework/ garden and refused to help, or did it under duress. He wants to duck out of responsibility and has not helped me with DIY since after his illness, before he was really enthusiastic.
Any help would be appreciated... I don't want to sound like a nagging wife.
