I have been doing alot around the house that she has wanted done for a long time. Painting some rooms, redoing the landscaping. Trying to do more of the domestic stuff for the kids. Taking them to Dr. appointments, hair appointments, calling to set up things for them. Little things like that that make her life eaiser and show her that I am a good father.
I help more around the house. I try to pick up before she askes, help with laundry and do not throw my clothes on the floor but put them in the hamper.
I no longer come home from work and veg on the couch. I start doing things and when she gets home I give her time to decompress and if she wants to I give her my attention so the she can talk to me if she wants to. I always have cooked dinner and cleaned up after so she can spend time helping our S with homework and stuff.
I have a whole list of things I have change in the past year to make me a better person and husband. With or without her I am much happier now than ever.
Yesterday went well until last night. I am not sure if this really matters or not but my wife caught me reading "Good Husband Great Marrage". I tried to hide it but it was too late. She asked me what I was hiding and I showed her the book. She asked if I had learned anything and that I can read whatever I want. I told her I had learned some things and that it is written by a guy for men.
Don't know if this consist as a R talk or not or if she really cares at this point. Things had been looking up with us, we are getting along but I still don't know what her feeling are or if she has any. Hopefully this was not a set back.
I took my wife to the theather last night to see Mama Mia. I bought the tickets several months ago as a suprise because I knew she wanted to see it. I also thought it would be a nice night out for just the two of us.
I made reservation at a nice resturant but I had to tell my wife because she was going to make plans for that night earlier in the week. She said that she always wanted to try this other resturant near the theather so I cancled my reservation to the original place. Of course the place she wanted to go did not take reservations and when we got there it was packed. Atleast a 45 minute waite. She was a little annoyed but I said nothing and remained calm. If this would have happened last year I would have been like see we should have kept my reservations now we will be late. And it would have ruined the night. Everything worked out and we just made it to the show.
We had a good time and she thanked me for getting the tickets. The only thing was she kept saying that she was tired because she did not sleep well last night. We got home close to mid night and I thought she would come stright to bed. She decides to go down stairs and read. This annoyed me but I was like I did a great job tonight of being layed back at the resturant and getting the tickets that if she wants to not come to bed its her loss and I will be asleep when she does decide to come, which I was.
I know it sounds petty but a little affection now and then would be nice. Its not the reason why I bought the tickets but we had a good time I just would have liked to finish the evening with a little snuggling. But paitence is still what I must have.
Sometimes I wonder if it is really worth all this hassel. W and I went out again on Saturday to dinner and shopping for some plants for in front of house. Got home around 9:30 and we watch tv till 11:00. W stayed up and waited for my D to come home. She must have been carring her cell phone around because it was not where she normaly puts it but it was there in the morning when I woke up.
She also bought a book about a woman who is married but runs into an old boyfriend and is torn between him and her husband. Its called "Love the one your with". Its an appropriate title.
Yesterday I planted the plants we had bought. Again the W must have had her cell phone on her all day. Makes me wonder if she is talking to OM or not.
It was my b-day so we had dinner and I got cards and gifts from my kids and W. Of course she just signed hers. No love nothing, what did I expect. Need to just say WTF, because dwelling on it does not do any good.
Just don't know how much longer I can take this until I just call it quits. I hate the non trust issue and since I don't know for sure if they are still talking or not I just cannot seem to get over it.
I see alot of positive but she has always done things like this so none of it seems to be out of the ordinary to me. I just don't think we are getting anywhere and I don't think she really wants to. I feels she has left and it does not matter what I do she does not want to have feelings for me. I might be wrong but that is how I am feeling at this point.
I am certanly not looking forward towards our anniversary this weekend. Same s*** with a bogus card and a half hearted effort to seem happy.
Sometimes I wonder if it is really worth all this hassel. W and I went out again on Saturday to dinner and shopping for some plants for in front of house. Got home around 9:30 and we watch tv till 11:00. W stayed up and waited for my D to come home. She must have been carring her cell phone around because it was not where she normaly puts it but it was there in the morning when I woke up.
She also bought a book about a woman who is married but runs into an old boyfriend and is torn between him and her husband. Its called "Love the one your with". Its an appropriate title.
Yesterday I planted the plants we had bought. Again the W must have had her cell phone on her all day. Makes me wonder if she is talking to OM or not.
It was my b-day so we had dinner and I got cards and gifts from my kids and W. Of course she just signed hers. No love nothing, what did I expect. Need to just say WTF, because dwelling on it does not do any good.
Just don't know how much longer I can take this until I just call it quits. I hate the non trust issue and since I don't know for sure if they are still talking or not I just cannot seem to get over it.
I see alot of positive but she has always done things like this so none of it seems to be out of the ordinary to me. I just don't think we are getting anywhere and I don't think she really wants to. I feels she has left and it does not matter what I do she does not want to have feelings for me. I might be wrong but that is how I am feeling at this point.
I am certanly not looking forward towards our anniversary this weekend. Same s*** with a bogus card and a half hearted effort to seem happy.
B-days and anniversaries are triggers. That's why you feel like you do. You've only been here since late April.
If OM is worrying you thee's only 2 ways to go. 1. Find out for sure if he is in the picture and out him. 2. Forget about him.
That is easier said than done. She locks her cell phone and it is one she got thru work so the bills go there. I cannot access her records and if I ask for her unlock code she probably won't give it to me. If she does she will just erase everything in it before she goes to bed.
It is a trust issue so asking her anything will only be a set back. I just need to forget about it but without feeling a connection with her it is hard. I hate not having the trust but since I feel like the person I love loves someone else it drives me crazy.
Glad you had a nice trip. Sorry your W is being such a bi**h.
My W is always nice but since she is so distant it is just as uncomfortable as if she is being a bi**h.
