Hey Jane, Just hang in there, I know all about being lonely. Since my W has been gone for over 2 months, damn I get lonely and miss very deeply. I know having patients is tough and that it will test you to no end, but it is a must. Anyway go to http://www.rejoiceministries.com look on the lower right where there is a search option. Then type in "standing firm" go to the standing firm weekly and there is about 40 newsletters there. They are about standing firm in your marriage, reading them is very uplifting.
Flipper I think all of us that have been left get the "let me go" line and the mixed signals, I know I sure have. Our spouses are simply confused and probably don't know half of what they are thinking. So I would put these messages under believe nothing you hear and half of what you see. I have gotten to where I ignore some of what she says in my mind. I put all my faith in God, I know he is going to restore my marriage and deep down even though my W doesn't show to much right now I think she knows deep in her heart that there is still something there too, cause she hasn't left yet. They are emotional, confused, frustrated and so on. Listen closely to what they say to make your adjustments, pace yourself, and just give them time, pray and I think they will eventually come around.
