That's what we are here for...vent away. I really like Jeff Daniels. So now I have an image of you in my head. You have come such a long way in a short period of time. I am in an anger stage since we came from our pre-trial divorce hearing Thursday and H said that he basically planned on filing bankruptcy as soon as we are divorced. What a jerk he has become. Yes, I realize alot of that debt will come back to me, my L is trying to figure something out, so we will see what happens. Sorry to hijack.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
Jeff, I have alot of L friends in STL and they have given me the name of a bulldog lawyer who has a real reputation of getting things done and fighting for the rights of the wronged spounce. If you want I can give you the name and number and you can talk to them. Even got allimony for one of my male friends...his wife left and cheated as well. Let me know and Im sorry this is so rough on you.
Until last month I lived by forest park so youlove in my stomping grounds. Chin up, you doing great!
Broken Hearted ------------------ Me - 36 H - 37 S - 8 Married - 1992 ILYNILWY - August 2007 Moved Out - March 2008 OW Revieled - May 28, 2008 Filed for D - July 2, 2008
kat727: You have come such a long way in a short period of time.
Wierd, I feel wierd being here, people come her to try to find help saving their M. I came here for the same reason at first, but I quickly realized I had no choice. W was still with OM and I wasn't going to put up with it.
I now only come here to vent, journal and lend a kind word or two or a prayer for someone here.
I haven't ever left the anger stage: I love my W soooo much, the pain and anger I still feel today thinking of her and OM touching. I cannot even stand to look at her and its hard to talk to her. It takes a lot of effort on my part just to be civil to her.
W put a strain on our finances, totaled a van, wrecked the new van before I made the first payment, so my auto insurance has gone way up. I just got done paying of her credit cards from when we were first married she had $16,000 in credit card debt, going into the M. During my snooping period, I found out she has racked up another $8,000 in credit card debt. She took all the furniture, so I have to buy new stuff, (looking at some used stuff to save money) I cannot file for D, I'll have to save up for that.
I'll keep you in my prayers Kat,
We all have a long haul ahead of us, good or bad it's the path we choose in life that's important.
M45 W41 M10 3/4 years D9, D6, D6, S5 OM confirmed 12/07 merry christmas to me WAM (Walk Away Mom) 05/31/08 Date I'll forgive W for A = never
Hey brokenhearted I would love the name and number of the L
are you still in St Louis, there are several people here from the St Louis area, is there something in the water here ???
Isn't that a good question! Has all of the rain brough about strange behavior in our spouses? Jeff I am still here thinking of you. I just don't know what to say. My marriage is over even though I never wanted it to be. Like your wife, my H refused to give up the OP. I gave him an ultimatium and now I am living with it. I too am very angry the past few days. I don't like the angry stage. Keep doing things for yourself and your kids. That is really all you can do.
Sara
Me-31 H-38 M: 5 yrs T: 7 yrs No kids Went to Prostitutes 10-1-06 Found out about OW 12-24-07 Bomb on EA/PA: 1-2-08 OW ended it with H "for good" 3-8-08 OW is back 4-19-08 H and OW tell me that they are in love 5-19-08 Filed for divorce 6-5-08 Divorced 7-2-08
I cannot stand it, S5 looked at me tonight with his big blue eyes and said, dad, when is mommy comming home. I about lost it right there. What do you say to a 5 year old. He loves his mom so much, my God.
What do you say to a 5 year old, I told him his mommy was working and she would be with him shortly. This is tearing me up inside. I'm hanging in there, trying to keep busy, so much to do, I think of W almost every minute of everyday, remembering when things were good and thinking of her in some OM arms.
I always write: Well "Always Look on the Bright Side of Life" I hear whistling in my head. I'll find love again someday. What is the bright side of a little boy wanting his mommy, to hold him, to kiss him, to tuck him into bed and chase his fears away.
We all have a long haul ahead of us, good or bad it's the path we choose in life that's important.
M45 W41 M10 3/4 years D9, D6, D6, S5 OM confirmed 12/07 merry christmas to me WAM (Walk Away Mom) 05/31/08 Date I'll forgive W for A = never
Haven't followed your thread that much as of late. But as to what do you tell a 5 yo? The truth. Never ever lie to him. Tell him the truth that a 5yo can understand and comprehend.
It gets better brother......believe me it does. It just doesn't happen soon enough.....
Me: 44 S: 17 and 7 Final-6-13-08 I once went to a psychic who told me I would soon feel cheated......
Paule, Camazine & Blumenthal, PC in Clayton at 314-727-2266
Also, I think you should read my thread on a post I found about a WAS with OM. It might help.
And, no I am no longer in St. Louis. After H confirmed I moved to Columbia for a year to get my finances in order. H dug us into a big hole as well. Must be in the water!!!
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Broken Hearted ------------------ Me - 36 H - 37 S - 8 Married - 1992 ILYNILWY - August 2007 Moved Out - March 2008 OW Revieled - May 28, 2008 Filed for D - July 2, 2008
This one was recomended to me as being very very good as well....Jim Whitney at 721-4141
Broken Hearted ------------------ Me - 36 H - 37 S - 8 Married - 1992 ILYNILWY - August 2007 Moved Out - March 2008 OW Revieled - May 28, 2008 Filed for D - July 2, 2008
Thanks Brokernhearted, I wrote down the lawyers that you provided and I'll give them a call.
Journaling:
I'm off today to give W a break from the kids. Last Wed/Thur W called me at work and was basically having a nervous breakdown, kids driving her crazy, crying over her relationship with her parents, and on and on, so I agreed to take off work today to give her a break
Kids were all in my room this morning jumping on me and playing around, then W calls to let me know D9 has golf lesson this morning, I quickly took down the info and handed the phone to my kids, they each got a turn to talk to her, one of the D6 asked her "when are you comming home mommy" - loved it, then S5 got on the phone "I love you mommy" S5 hung up the phone and W called back immediately, She thanked me for giving her a break today, I said no problem, (kept conversation it short) told her I was going to take kids to the pool, etc. She could hear the kids playing laughing jumping on me, told her I had to go, as we said goodbye, I could her her voice, she was crying.
I always write: Well "Always Look on the Bright Side of Life" I hear whistling in my head. I'll find love again someday. What is the bright side of a little boy wanting his mommy, to hold him, to kiss him, to tuck him into bed and chase his fears away.
We all have a long haul ahead of us, good or bad it's the path we choose in life that's important.
M45 W41 M10 3/4 years D9, D6, D6, S5 OM confirmed 12/07 merry christmas to me WAM (Walk Away Mom) 05/31/08 Date I'll forgive W for A = never
