Hi VJ! It was so great checking in and seeing your name pop up. And my, what a timely topic. I'm struggling right now with my relationship with my new guy. I have had all the same anxieties and questions that you brought up. Really, how is all of this suppose to work? How do we deal with the "baggage"(as my mother likes to call it)?

If I can give you any advice it would be to trust your instincts. Do what is right for you, VJ. You have been through a lot and coming out a little battle scarred on the other side has some advantages. I think of it sort of like a person who is blind. I'm told that their other senses are much keener than the average person as a way to help compensate for the loss of sight. The war you just survived gave you new survival skills. Trust them and use them.

Thanks again for checking in. I love the updates of all the "Oldtimers".

Spitty

Always do right. This will gratify some people, and astonish the rest.
Mark Twain