ms ladybug SQUISHED (2)

[pisces9]

wow! ms ladybug
dont focus on anything right now but the positive.
this is HUGE and a major step- not just a baby step

enjoy this.

i know he may retreat for a bit to think about this (emotionally/ physcially) but thats ok....just let it roll off you.

TRUST him...

Pisces

[redsawks44]

red, of course it's oK for you to send a letter like that SOMEDAY. I still think your sitch is too new right now.

Have you identified what her major complaints are about you? Are you truly able to tell her that you know you f'd up? What are you doing to fix things?
Tell me about the letter you sent in the past. Did she respond well to it?

For me it was less of how he's going to respond and more to just get it off my chest, and humble myself (not easy for me, stupid pride).

quick question ladybug..

can i send W a similar letter tonight, or is 1 month too soon? We seem to get along like when we first started dating. thoughts?

[Virtually_Handsome]

NO, NO, NO, NO

Probably more that one month too soon. This is going to take a long time.

[redsawks44]

NO, NO, NO, NO

Probably more that one month too soon. This is going to take a long time.

Patience .... yes i know... ouchie.. not so easy..

what happens if/when she moves out...

[Virtually_Handsome]

When she moves out, she won't be living there any more. No more, no less.

[Virtually_Handsome]

Except that you won't have to worry about every step you take. It's not all bad.

[redsawks44]

Except that you won't have to worry about every step you take. It's not all bad.

and that ends that ?

[redsawks44]

When she moves out, she won't be living there any more. No more, no less.

sigh

[Virtually_Handsome]

It's not the end in the least! It's just a station along the way. We don't even know where the road is leading.

Look, lately you've been worrying about every single interaction with her, every word. If she leave, you will have less of that. That will give you more time to really focus on you. Not because she'll see it, but because it's what you need. That's why I say it isn't all bad.

Her not living there could well be a step that has to be taken for things to get better. Whatever you do, don't beg, etc., to try to stop her. If she says she is going, accept it as gracefully as you can!

[redsawks44]

yes the road ahead anything can happen i agree.. we don't know which makes it so exciting ..

i will just continue my day by day thinking and working on making myself happy and the man i know i can be..

she won't see the changes, but i know word of mouth she will hear about it.. i might still try to keep this house, because i like it.. some have told me "you will never be able to do it, because of W"

it's brand new home.. unless we get knocked off with amn incredible offer, i think it will sit in this horrible market for awhile (all summer +) ...

I so want to be that better person and become a father.. the wake up call has been made.. i grew up this month..

there will be no brgging or attempting to stop her. I will be grceful and respectful. I just wonder why she hasn't wanted to speak about anything.. she's just soooo angry..