Sorry you're feeling a bit ambivalent today. The weekends are hard, I agree. I guess it might be worth giving things a few weeks yet before you make a hard and fast decision one way or another. Would you agree? If you still feel the same in a months time, you can re-evaluate and choose a path forward.....
In terms of H answering the phone to you, I think that personally I wouldn't call. DB says to go to the LRT if you're S, which for now means don't contact him. Let him come to you. I know it's hard, but any calls you make to him are pressure at the moment, so you need to completely back off. He WILL call you. He just needs space. I think the same thing could explain why he didn't e-mail you back after your meeting this week.
When I first started here, I expected change very quickly, but in reality, effecting change when you're S takes time. For my H it was 4 months or so before I saw a real baby step (it was when I first started posting- although I'd been DBing for 4 months solid, since the S). And things got worse before they got better. I think many of the others would say the same thing to. Although I guess that's scant consolation.
