It would have to be iron-clad in writing so that a potential future girlfriend couldn't screw it up. He said, why would that happen? Me: H, you never know. she might not like ties to your ex, might try to get in between us/you and the kids, etc. Him: that's absurd. Why would that happen? Me: Happens all the time. Girl/boyfriend relationships can really f things up. H just doesn't want to think of anything except how he thinks it's going to be: the perfect divorce.
Hi cw. Sorry you have to go through this with your H. I have had similar convos with my H. He says "if another woman can't understand that you and D are important to me then she'll either have to deal with it or leave" BS! We all know that future relationships frequently have a lot of jealously for the previous S especially if there are children involved. The gf/bf will often do whatever it takes to ensure that they appear to care about the child and want the ex spouses to be friends just to "get" the other S but then if it gets to marriage the whole game changes.
We need to protect our children even if the stbx S doesn't understand.
Search for "sunshine".
Jen
Jen *The more anger towards the past you carry in your heart, the less capable you are of loving in the present*
