How we interact with the people in our lives, what we find attractive, the level of emotional risk we are willing to take, etc are very personal choices based on so many different individual specific parameters, including but not limited to, personal history/life experiences, the environment we live, the goals in our life, individual senses of self/self esteem and/or where we are in our lives at given point in time.
Attractiveness can also be defined by our baser reaction to another human being, an intellectual reaction - or perhaps a combination of both.
It is tough to qualify and is really an aggretate of a person's qualities that defines what I find attractive in a person. In my case, it is a compromise when it comes to how much I weight I grant to those individual qualities. In some cases, I will place more weight on characteristic A - if charateristic B is not essential but perhaps just week. And of course, there are characteristics that are deal breakers.
I have been giving all this some thought as I mentally enter the dating world again. This was a good thread.
