Good for you on keeping yourself doing something you love.
I really hope your H gets some help soon. It is so not normal for him to not be intimate with his wife. There is something he is not saying. I am really sorry you are going thru this.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
i am too.....but I guess that is what he wants in a M.....nothing is happening on that front.....if theres no disease, if hes not bedding cow for for the past 6 months, if theres no ED, its just plain i will never measure up to what he had with the cow and he just came home out of convenience...
Last edited by a new 2moro; 06/22/0803:37 PM.
Me 53 H 51 OW 25 Bomb may 06 left june 8/ 06 ILYBNILWY (twice!) 7/6/07 H wants to come home 7/21/07 H comes home 7/07 -7/08 long haul letting go of OW now piecing in earnest
It is not you at all so do not feel like you can never measure up.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
he says he does...well he phrases it funny...when i ask if hes not interested in me..."I wouldnt say that".....he says...but nothing do i feel in his body language....
Me 53 H 51 OW 25 Bomb may 06 left june 8/ 06 ILYBNILWY (twice!) 7/6/07 H wants to come home 7/21/07 H comes home 7/07 -7/08 long haul letting go of OW now piecing in earnest
I am so sorry!! Not to sound nasty or anything, but what if you are unpredictable--wear a tight shirt, nothing underneath, hug him/caress him as he walks by you, tell him how much you love him...will any of that work? Plant a huge kiss on his mouth.
Heck, get some viagara and put it in his juice!!
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
Me 53 H 51 OW 25 Bomb may 06 left june 8/ 06 ILYBNILWY (twice!) 7/6/07 H wants to come home 7/21/07 H comes home 7/07 -7/08 long haul letting go of OW now piecing in earnest
Oh a new 2moro, Our sitchs are so similar! - I am sorry for what you are going through AGAIN! I wish I had an answer how we could turn the sitch around. (((HUGS)))
Sounds like his "time of the month". Think I'm kidding?? I'm not. I'm serious. Make note of the dates and see if in about 28 days or so he's grumpy again.
Typical MLC cycling. FW still does it to a much lesser extent and can now recognize what it is and not take it out on everyone around him, but it's still very real and very cyclical.
Just give him a wide berth for a few days. Don't engage his spewing and he'll be better soon.
BFM
There is only one person who could ever make you happy, and that person is you. David Burns, Intimate Connections
