My last post: ********************** Not much new for me. Had not heard from WW since she left Tues morning (at least the kiss was the last thing we shared...). MIL called yesterday asking if we were going to their cabin at the lake the July long weekend (July 1 that is - yes, I am in Canada). We hadn't talked about it at home, so to be polite, I did text WW last night asking. All her family will be there (2 sisters, their kids, her M/D) so not sure what she would say.
Her response: "Not sure what's on the calendar. If nothing then I guess if everyone wants to go phone and tell her."
Depending on what she is thinking after this trip, could make for some interesting dynamics for sure...
WW is away til Sunday, so I was home all day yesterday with a sick D10 and then Dr appointments for D16 (all is fine). The day off was good, but too bad it had to come because of kids' health. **************************************
Just an update. Have been quiet since she left except for the above text and one text today about speakers installed o/s our house. Very short and factual.
While I am ok with the darkness between WW and me right now, I am extremely disappointed, however, that WW has not called to talk to the K's. She hasn't even TM'd D16 or S13 (D10 doesn't have a cell phone yet - "how unfair is that!" What a kid). Again I am left bewildered at the lack of, for lack of better words, motherly behavior she is showing at times.
Oh well, K's and I have a busy weekend planned - hopefully weather stays nice and we can finally get the Seadoo on some water this weekend.
LIS
M45 WW 43 D17/S14/D11
ILYB Jan 08 PA Conf Feb 08 OMW / OM contacted S Jan / 09
No one ever has, or ever will, escape the consequences of their actions.
Agree totally . The one thing I will say is that the amount of time she has been "grounded" before she left on her trip increased over the last 3 months.
Will there be something left when (if??) she comes crashing down? Who knows. Right now, sure. But the longer this drags out, the more alienated I am likely to become, AND the more alienated the K's are likely to become if she keeps this up.
LIS
M45 WW 43 D17/S14/D11
ILYB Jan 08 PA Conf Feb 08 OMW / OM contacted S Jan / 09
No one ever has, or ever will, escape the consequences of their actions.
Hi all. Sat afternoon. And WW finally called to see if her home still existed (she left Tues morning). She managed to take a couple minutes to call but spoke only to D16 (I was out with S13).
Had a C appointment yesterday. When I relayed the events that happened in the 3 days before WW left, C seems to think that my changes may have hit the "critical mass" point where WW actually may believe I am legit - and that may have caused the positive change.
But I have to say that her lack of interest in home since makes me wonder...
She is home tomorrow - we will see. Then off to IL cabin next weekend to a full house. We will see indeed...
LIS
M45 WW 43 D17/S14/D11
ILYB Jan 08 PA Conf Feb 08 OMW / OM contacted S Jan / 09
No one ever has, or ever will, escape the consequences of their actions.
What the heck is going on with me? WW has been away since Tuesday, spoke to her for maybe 15 seconds last night on the phone... yet because she is coming home tonight, I have these frickin butterflies in my stomach. What is up with that?????? If the last three days before she left weren't so positive compared to the two / three months prior, I am sure I would not have these feelings right now.
No expectations (at least not consciously), but I am darn curious to see what transpired on her visit to our friends (the ones she thinks have a "great marriage" (and they do) and wanted some tips / suggestions to help her stay, so she says). Yes I could call them, but will give WW first crack at discussing this.
Have to go to the gym to get this out of my system today...
PATIENCE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Have to be the turtle - slow and steady wins the race!
LIS
M45 WW 43 D17/S14/D11
ILYB Jan 08 PA Conf Feb 08 OMW / OM contacted S Jan / 09
No one ever has, or ever will, escape the consequences of their actions.
Some lines I heard; - unhappy and don't want to live rest of my life like this
- no, I haven't found anything better
- you have to deal with that because your view can't have the kids in mind (when I said D is not an option for me with K's)
- what option are you giving me (when I said I have not changed view that I do not want out and am not leaving), yet I need to get on the same page as her (meaning look at splitting)
- do I want this to be amicable or dirty
- why didn't you come talk to me - you never do (when I went for a drive after the convo when she got home - yet she's the one who caused the cr*p in the first place)
LIS
M45 WW 43 D17/S14/D11
ILYB Jan 08 PA Conf Feb 08 OMW / OM contacted S Jan / 09
No one ever has, or ever will, escape the consequences of their actions.
What a kid). Again I am left bewildered at the lack of, for lack of better words, motherly behavior she is showing at times. 
. The one thing I will say is that the amount of time she has been "grounded" before she left on her trip increased over the last 3 months.
If the last three days before she left weren't so positive compared to the two / three months prior, I am sure I would not have these feelings right now.