I also think it boils down to emotional immaturity. We helped each other grow in our life together, but maintaining, feeding, nurturing the R -- that's where we failed. And when things got difficult as a result, she regressed back to her immature self and I lost her.
I agree prob. a lot of us may not have nurtured our R's as much as we should have, but I think every marriage is going to have tough times or times where you're busy or don't pay as much attention as you should, or you're depressed (like I was) or sick, or whatever. And when you're married you don't or shouldn't find an OP and just bail on the marriage. Because I think every marriage goes through patches like that. I used to take 50/50 blame with our marriage blowing up, or maybe even more than that, but I'm not so sure anymore about that...Karen
