Yep, certainly did all that I could to save my marriage. I will never have any regrets or lose sleep over "what if's", as I had pretty much explored every avenue and read every book.
I have not posted in a while, but have had a very busy month. Moved into my new place, got a promotion at work and have met a wonderful "friend" (who I have been joined at the hip with for over a month). She has been through similar to me, so we have had a great deal in common to talk about (not that we dwell on our past, but understand where we have both come from).
It's funny how things happen when u least expect it. I had all these "big" plans of moving to a place on the beach, and living the single life, with no restrictions, then my plan goes "pear" shaped (for all good reasons mind u). But hey, nothing good is ever planned anyway
As I mentioned before, I don't think I was ever "strong" enough to forgive and forget regardless of my efforts. I really do think that if things did change, and my XW did come back in the first few months, It would have always "festered" in our relationship beyond repair.
Some people can get through it, but my morals and values would not allow me to. I sort of "nipped" it in the bud when she was confused and trying to instigate a possible return several months ago (after hearing it from my SIL). I sort of "cut" her off completely from any false hope, and have been very "elusive" in regards to contact (always keeping it brief and business like, when it came to DD and money matters).
So at the moment, life is great. DD is healthy and happy and enjoying her stays with me at the beach. DD also adores my friend and her two boys (who are similar ages to DD). The bonus is, she is the complete opposite to my XW in every way. So I have not made the same mistake that some people may make by finding a similar partner to the ones they have left (due to the familiarity and comfort of continuing in a similar relationship).
Yes, the numerous books I have read did come in handy
