Hi Jeannine...is it possible they've locked up your thread at 138 posts and mine is still chugging at 166??? (My last one hit over 240!)
At any rate, can't reply there...so I'll do so here.
I'm with KAW on this one (again!). It isn't essential to spend months "on the couch" exploring in detail the distant past. That was the classic Freudian approach.
Most counsellors today (not yours apparently) are more present oriented. Someone who follows the Cognitive-Behavioural school is more interested in changing what is going on NOW...with very effective techniques, depending on the problem.
But, alas, "existential" issues, (like: "What do I want from life???") tend to require SOME delving into past patterns, at least to see where they mislead us etc. I think an "autopsy" of his previous R's is not a bad idea.
So, how to find a C (yours wasn't suggesting he go to her, was she?) who will win him over with a concrete action plan, and be able to delve when necessary...hmmmm...
