Number 8, still too late for DB to work.

[CBK]

CW -

Sorry I haven't been there for you the past few weeks - I totally checked out, needed to. I just spent the last few hours catching up with your sitch.

I have to say, the best thing for me so far was totally detaching, only talking to W when I needed to. We met weekly for dinner, but talked very little about the R. I slowed EVERYTHING down, including my emotions. Your sitch is so much more difficult with your kids - but I have found by slowing down, it has helped.

My gut agrees with you, there seems to be somebody "helping" him push things along. I hope not.

The great thing about this site is getting your journaling done - really getting your emotions out there and getting some honest feedback. What I didn't read much was what your are doing for you. I remember earlier posts about golfing, going to Tahoe, etc - you need to take care of yourself. As I have said many other times, I am concerned for you, you are shouldering so much and being so strong for your kids - so impressive - you are a pretty special person, we all can see this by your posts. So remember, take care of CW too, take the time and walk, find friends to laugh. Heck, I am not too far away - I will go hit a bucket with you! Keep your network strong - both this one and the one you have around you that you can call or meet over a glass (or bottle) of wine with.

Be well - if you can, try and slow down if you can.

CBK