In just a couple of posts you actualy have covered a couple of major issues and I think that like the previous post you have something to work with.
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I had asked him to take me for a motorcycle ride, that I was more afraid of losing him than riding the motorcycle
Fear... this is probably the hardest part of this whole thing. letting go your fear of losing your H. Its better to stand by what you feel is right and right for you , you will surprised how angry the WAS can get and then appologise the next day if you stay firm on what you think is right.
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He tends to make a list of all my faults that come back at me when he gets mad.
This is very common , its a way of self justification and I think most often used when WAS is feeling guilt about what they are doing. Try not to rush around fixing it all , its more a red herring , we all have faults .
The main thing you brought up was in your first post. It was LOVE vs ATTRACTION.
The good thing is your H still says he loves you, what is evident is the attraction has gone , this is very common. Now this gives you something to work with . The good news is that if you study the DB or DR book the actions you take will help you be more attractive to your H . You cant do anything at all about what he is doing , but you can work on yourself .
Its not going to be quick or easy , but patience and time will be your best friends.
