My D10 means so much to me. I made a commitment to raise her the best I could and so far so good. What I said to my W about D10 may have had some impact. I think when I don't overload my W with observations (not complaints) about her behavior she tries to work on them.
What I want to do is a very good question. I want happiness and only I can achieve that goal. The way our stich is nothing my W can do will rob me of my happiness. I've taken the focus of my energy away from her to what I want to do. If I feel like going out by myself I will.
Now and then I will reveal one of my deep thoughts to her. Then go to my own thing. Something like - just because something makes you feel good doesn't mean it's right. I said this to her one morning when she came home very late.
For now I will pray and hope I don't give into any temptations that come my way.