On The Rollercoaster Ride!

[addie]

Kalni, W2G and Stella thanks for your thoughts.

I'm not yet sure how I'll "confront" H. So far I've been acting as if and he's been very warm and caring, physically/emotionally affectionate But maybe that's becuse OW is out of town doing field work until August and she told him they would talk then (she did tell him it's over between them, he's the one seeking her out).
Obviously if I do confront H I'm not going to tell him about the emails I saw, just ask him if he's contacted her and tell him I "sense" that he's still not over her (or something like that).

Kalni - you're probably right that it's still too soon to expect 100% honesty at this point and I guess he's still going through withdrawal. But he's telling her that it was never just a fling for him, he thought it was real, he'll never meet anyone else who is so passionate about their field just like him, stimulating conversationalist, highly intelligent, etc. Meanwhile he tells me even just recently that he never saw that relationship as long-term, she's not a step mother figure for S, very high maintenance person, etc.

Kalni - in answer to your question: I've been able to figure out his passwords, that's how I've snooped. Certainly I'm not proud of it and you can't have real trust doing this but I'm one that wants to know what's going on. I want to base my decisions on "the truth".