I found this pod cast that describes my H PERFECTLY!!! He is the nicw guy and now I'm wondering if the reason he is such a mess is because of all those years of lying, trying to be everything for everyone else and now he is just sooo empty. Take a listen and see if this describes your H.

No More Mister Nice Guy:

http://consciousrelationshipseminars.blogspot.com/

Broken Hearted
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Me - 36
H - 37
S - 8
Married - 1992
ILYNILWY - August 2007
Moved Out - March 2008
OW Revieled - May 28, 2008
Filed for D - July 2, 2008

http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=1599046&page=0&fpart=1