I have been reading your posts for a while but haven't contributed anything to them so far. Didi, I appreciate very much that you are prepared to open up to us in this way.
Runningoutoftime, I can attest to what works for "personal change". Read Psycho Cybernetics by Maxwell Maltz and apply the exercises religiously and precisely. It works like you would not believe. I have used it with great effect on the anger and selfishness issues which led to me and my W separating and I have also used it to go from D and E student at school to a straight A student. I have also used the teachings with great success in my professional life. I must have faith that they will be just as effective in my M.
But, you must do what the book says TO THE LETTER or any effort will be wasted.
It works, trust me. I have gone from being an angry and selfish piece of junk to being an unflappable and generous person (whilst still remaining an alpha male).
Good luck to both of you!
GH31
Me: 46 W: 46 T: 23 M: 20 DS12 DD11 DS5
W left: 01/28/08 Discovered OM: 02/26/08 W back for 9 days: 04/08 W returned 05/21/08 EA/PA - 01/08-07/09 W's MLC 2008-2014 (realised this much later)
