okay, well, one is recently you've sounded kinda fed up, and done. But I'll have to go thru some posts.

Part of what I say sometimes, does have reasons... but sometimes I speak from what I feel or am sensing and I don't always have an exact answer for why. partly because I have a horrible memory and can't recall exactly what I've read previously to tell you what things stuck out at me. SOOOOOOOO, I will try to look back over your posts and copy some things that stuck me.


I'm sorry, you ARE a stander, but I know to be a stander we must not hold our bitterness, but instead release it, and I also feel that we should look at our WAS as someone who is lost, therefore, we cannot be angry at them, but instead have compassion on them.

I know that as humans, we are incapable of being perfect, but with God's strength, we can try to get as close as we can.

For some reason, and I am totally not saying this is all because of you, but when I looked upon the 3 separations in your sig, (I mentioned this a little before) what came to me was wondering if when things start getting better, something changes that your doing, and then it falls apart again. For ex., when you guys were together for several nights I believe and you even were intimate if I remember right, but afterwards you became hurt and confused. Perhaps it is hard for you when things start showing to progress, that your expectations start coming in again and it causes you to get let down, which then starts a cycle again.

I'm only speculating, and I'm absolutely not saying this is all because of you. This definitely is because of her, as we know this is her choice that she is making, but I want you to have the best chance possible to save your M.

I may be totally wrong, but this is just what I have been thinking about. I hope this isn't the wrong time to discuss, but I wanted to answer you.

More important though, you need to get out of your down moment and get back up and be strong. You need to get that PMA up and live as Christ would have you live. We need to remember that we are here for HIS purpose, not our own.

Here is a verse about perseverance..

James 5:10-11
Brothers, as an example of patience in the face of suffering, take the prophets who spoke in the name of the Lord. As you know, we consider blessed those who have persevered. You have heard of Job's perseverance and have seen what the Lord finally brought about. The Lord is full of compassion and mercy.


Me 33 H 34 S9 S3
M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs)
EA/PA 1/2006
DB 5/2006
H wants D 6/2006
H wants ME 8/2006
H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006
H erased OW off phone! 2/2007

"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."