I'm wondering if your H may have had issues with intimacy? Just curious. I think it's great he went into therapy, worked on himself and was able to make some changes. That's not always easy, especially for a lot of men! You mention having expressed your unhappiness and him just doing his routine. I think sometimes it's really difficult for people to internalize what needs to be changed and live it. I think it takes a lot of time and effort to make changes natural, effortless, routine... I work with special needs kids and there's a sort of similarity. For example, "rewiring" the brain and making behaviors and cognitive skills automatic. It definitely doesn't happen overnight. And only so much can be rewired.... But when someone wants to change and actually does work on it. Well, that's commendable....
So what did you see in your H in the first place? What attracted you to him and why did you marry him?
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.
