Well, the rest of yesterday was interesting. We made dinner (double baked potatoes and sauteed mushrooms with tons of garlic, garden salad), shared a bottle of wine and actually talked over dinner.
CJ was sharing some of his personality research for the course he's taking, we discussed the Personality Type thing, then I remembered another test I took called the NEO. This one is THE gold standard for personality tests and I took it last October.
It breaks you down on five key dimensions, with subscales rated out of 100. Examples of some of the subscales? Trust, Morality, Anxiety, Extraversion, Orderliness, etc.
Well we sat in the back after he took the test and compared scores. Must say, it explains a lot.
We BOTH have low activity level scores, ...my trust score was 83!!!(remember this was before I found out the truth about OW ), his was 55. Go figure!
As for Orderliness, I thought my score of 6 was pretty bad, but CJ scored.....ZERO!!!! This scale measures you tendencies towards organization, schedules, plans....we also both scored low on Dutifulness....sense of obligation.
I was a little taken aback to see that CJ also scored very low on achievment striving...setting goals, having direction in life and following through. (I scored a respectable 60 on that).
Then there is the Neuroticism scale.....I scored 95 for anxiety (pre-med remember!), and, gulp, 89 on Anger . My depression score was higher than CJ's as was my vulnerability score (93!).
Well I did have a point here..........things got a little heated while we were going over our results. At first it was kind of funny...we had a good laugh over our pitiful orderliness scores...but then I brought up some of the nagging "things" that CJ keeps promising to do and then not.
I asked him to please explain....and he did. He insists that it is not passive aggression, he just doesn't feel any urgency to do these things. He says he has tunnel vision and doesn't even notice the boxes and bags of weeds etc that have been marring our back yard for years.
Ditto for the income tax money...he now says we should have closer to $10,000 coming...but he just doesn't feel any urgency to get it done .
I tried to explain that it may not bother HIM, but these things DO bother ME. He pointed to the mass of make-up paraphenalia on our back table...says he never asks me to clean up....right...because it doesn't BOTHER HIM!!! (And interior surfaces DO get cleaned periodically). If it DID bother him, I'd do something about it!!!
So our deal is that if he doesn't get rid of the detritus in the yard in two weeks (it was two weeks ago that he stopped me from doing it myself)...I can do whatever it takes to clean it out...I'm sure I can hire someone to carry all that stuff away...I just wish CJ would see that these things matter to me!
Oh well. Either way, that crap is outta here!
Here's the cool part: although we were both a little heated there for a while...we swung the evening back around, played some tunes, danced in our living room and did comparison shots of Baha Rosa and Baha Luna...I'm leaning towards the Rosa myself!
Now here's the URL for that personality test (it's the "Big Five Personality Factors" for you psych buffs).
I'm not sure CJ could access it through this, but he managed to locate the test somehow last night.
), his was 55. Go figure!
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