Even if you are making friends and having fun there will still be sadness. It's a roller coaster. Even your wife is riding the ups and downs. It's very hard...
Try meeting people at various places. Go to church, divorce care groups, and even though I don't want you to become an alcoholic, find some neighborhood night clubs or bars and go there. Before I found single friends I'd sometimes go to the Elephant Bar. I'd sit in the bar, order a chocolate martini, and one of their awesome side salads and I'd bring my journal with me and write. Sometimes I'd talk with people. It's kind of nice because there's no expectations and sometimes you reallyhave some interesting conversations. One night I met a group of people and followed them (In my own car, and I drove alone!!! Limited myself to one drink since I'm a light-weight and I parked in well-lit, safe places...), to some other bars. It was a lot of fun and I got to learn about different places around town. Anyhow, all I'm saying is just make sure you get out and be a little open to adventure. You'll still be lonely and have those ups and downs, but you'll have interesting times too...
Hummmmm... that actually sounds good. Maybe I'll go to Elepahnt Bar tonight for salad and one of those chocolate martinis!
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.
