it just dawned on me that of course my H's first comment about our R was to get an L or a mediator....since i haven't brought up the R at all each time we talk it haw left that part up to him.

even though i am have been through hell and back these last months i haven't told him any of my pain so he has no idea really what i am thinking.

so he possibly could have been thinking that i was going to say i wanted a D or at the very least it was his security blanket to see how i would react.

i handled it perfectly- i think. no crying, calm and collected and listened and acknowledged him

now my only other question is why would he say "i don want to give you false hope and have you think that things will be ok"...
is that another way for him to be in control?

Pisces
M 31 H 32
M 7 yrs
S 5/10
Beginning
Contact!
Vibes
Hot Tub
Cheese