Quote: So part of me, I think is waiting for that…for him to ask me for forgiveness.
You may never get this, SB. For me, I know it was something I had to simply tell my W. At one point, soon after I found out about her A, I asked her if she was waiting for me to tell her I forgave her. Her response was that she thought I'd do so when I was ready...and pretty much left it at that. She didn't push. I simply believe it's something we have to give without being asked...
Quote: I’m starting to think that forgiveness, for me, may come in bits and pieces. Maybe this is totally against the whole idea of forgiveness, but for example.
I don't think that's odd at all...
Quote: But what still hurts and baffles me are the incredible lies he told…
I know...kind of hard to believe what comes out of their mouths, isn't it? I, too, have trouble with this, but for me it's not really a matter of forgiveness...it's more a matter of trust. I have finally reached a point where I can forgive, but can I trust her? The lines do get a bit blurred, so I can certainly understand how you feel.
Quote: So maybe the time for ME to say “I forgive you” is when I feel at peace with all of these things (and many more that will come to me later, no doubt)
I think you'll know when the time is right, SB. Perhaps it will come after you and CJ have some good talks about what went down, where his head was, etc., before this can happen. Perhaps you just need some more explanation, more understand of things before letting it go. I think this is understandable.
