Hi, Shiny! I know how you feel about wanting to get things done in a certain time frame and not having your spouse jump up and down and be on board and as excited about it as you are! We're trying to get the house ready to put on the market...
I am a MAJOR scheduler/planner/list-maker. So much so that on one of her mother's day cards from a couple years back, D5 had to fill in the blanks about her mommy, one of which was, "My mommy is good at a lot of things! She is especially good at..." and D5 (who was probably 3 at the time) said "making lists"!!!!! OH BRUTHERRRR!!!!
Ok, so we joke about it, but the truth is, I get VERY anxious and overwhelmed if I don't have a plan. I'm not anal about sticking to it, but I like to know in my head that if we don't get such-and-such done today, it will mean that so-and-so won't get done tomorrow, and things will have to be put off a little. I don't mind that, so long as I still have some sense of actually WHEN things will PROBABLY get DONE!!! SBH hates schedules, is rebellious and feels penned in when I try to get him to commit to one. We've worked through this in a direct manner a couple of times in the past 6 months or so. We're still working on it!
But if I'm inspired to do something, I just do it, if I have time (HUGE factor in our life). He will ask if I'm mad, but mostly I'm not, I just want to get it done. If CJ worries, let him worry! Reassure him that you're not mad, then do it if you're so inspired! HIS PROBLEM if he feels you are trying to make him feel guilty or get off his bum and help! As long as you don't b!tch, as long as you reassure him that you're NOT mad with him, let him feel bad! Nya nya...
Oh, I'm feeling a bit grumpy myself, and a little silly! It's just never that simple with these things, is it!?! I'm glad you were able to turn the day around - that is a great skill!
Thanks for you post on my thread! Have a good teaching week!
