I would ask your H to do 2-3 specific things that would let you know he's interested in pursuing the M with you. Make them very easy for him to do. If he's not willing, then you have your answer. You can not make a relationship work if one person won't make any effort at all.
In the meantime, keep working on you. Take care of you. Be patient with yourself. Don't let H push you into a D if you don't want it.
M 19 years, MC for 8 months, DB'd for 8 months 4 kids; 18, 15, 14, & 10 I was never meant to be a doormat. It took me years of therapy to become assertive enough to stop his abuse.
