You can read my sitch, it's been 12 very very long exhausting months. I suppose I had a sliver of hope all that time, yet there were days I didn't want it to work, & wished that he would pull the plug.

How did I get here ?

I have been taking very good care of me, finally ! I am in therapy, I go individually one week, then H comes with me next week. When I started therapy I was highly doubtful that I could ever have feelings for H again. Yet...they are developing. As I am more honest with myself, with him, & airing the past, buried anger & resentment.

Is your H willing to change & work on the M ? Is he willing to go to MC ? Is he willing to listen to your anger & frustration ?

M 19 years, MC for 8 months, DB'd for 8 months
4 kids; 18, 15, 14, & 10
I was never meant to be a doormat. It took me years of therapy to become assertive enough to stop his abuse.