Shines Like Destruction (10)

[gForce]

As I see it, I'm pretty sure you have detached. What is your definition of "detachment"?

I'm sad for your wife. She's making such a huge mistake and she's obviously very confused.

I would define detachment as not allowing W to be the sole determinant of my emotional state, and not letting W's reaction be the primary focus of my actions.

gfi, I am sad for her too. I am not an easy man to live with. I tend to become emotionally withdrawn, I don't deal with conflict well, I don't always communicate openly -- the list goes on. But I do think she is making a huge mistake, and I don't think she is thinking clearly. Call it being resolute, firm boundaries, lines on the sand... or call it impatience, weakness, lack of commitment. Six months is not as long as many of you have been fighting, but she persists in actions that are deal breakers for me and I have nothing left.