Husband wants to reconcile again-try#4

[Nutty Chick]

Any advise on how to make him choose a healthy life as my H over the bar life would be great-but I know thier is no really good answer.

Hi Tipper.

I don't think you will.

His friends all go to bars and he plays drums there. Bars are a very big part of his life. They feel familiar and safe.

If I remember rightly 'family' was not a safe place to be when he was younger. I wonder if when he feels himself getting close to you and spending more time at home with you that it triggers the anxiety of 'family' closing him on him.


I see a similar thing with my H. he had a poor childhood. Bars and friends were his salvation. Relaxing, undemanding, and always there.

I just hope he wakes up and see what a good woman he has in you.

Nutty x