H had 3 year affair and I never knew!

[happycamper]

I've started to read a book called 'Putting Children First', which is all about separated parents dealing with the children during and after a D. It does go through the emotional stages that the 'leaver' and the 'left' are going through. It's good to see that the emotions felt can be very different. Of course it is hard for him too, but not in the same way it is hard for me. I recognise I am very much in the 'shock' stage - not really eating, not able to sleep very well, not really able even to process what this will do to the children. It is doing me good as it is helping me to focus on the children and how we can make life easier for them.