That she's using the terms "husband" and "wife" is a very good sign. Don't worry about her filing, serving you papers, etc. I went through all that, and then things started to turn. This is a LONG process, you have plenty of time. You're even separated yet!
Me: 30 W: 28 T 8, M 6 S: 7-27-2007 W filed (again) 3-2011 Served 8-2011 Responded, now dark "I have decided to stick with love. Hate is too great a burden to bear" MLK