ok - that's what I'll do. Why do you think she keeps having these emotional conversations with me?
Because she's confused and she's used to you rescuing her from her confusion, and even her bad choices.
You need to learn to simply VALIDATE her ("I'm sorry to see you so confused," and "I'm sorry you're hurting," and "I can understand how confusing that must be"), but NOT rescue her from the consequences of her poor choices.
Basically, "I care for you, I understand and I'm sorry to see you hurting, but this is your mess and you're going to have to clean it up."
