That is interesting on your & CJ's dreams. Plus the really neat thing is he showed an interest and asked about your dream and then shared his as well. I think that is just so cool!
I sure do wish David and I were there, not that we don't still share a lot of things. If you met us and talked to us I am willing to bet you would never know there is a court date in less than two weeks! He still feels very connected.
I don't remember the last time I had a dream I remember. I know I am bound to be dreaming and if they were like you and Tal's were/are I don't want to remember them!
Take care and thanks for all the support!
Pam
"We must be willing to let go of the life we had planned so as to have the life that is waiting for us"
I met you through Pam's thread. I have been on the boards for awhile but not by this name. I felt that I wanted to met you. I printed off this thread and read about your sitch. Through out my reading, I noted several similarities in out sitch. It has only been 4+ mos since my bomb. I have learned alot of good and positive information from the friend on the board.
I have some questions for you that I will post as soon as I think them out clearly.
Just wanted to let you know that I admire the progress that you have made and want to see this type of progress in my M.
I need to go right now, but I will be back. Topaz.
Hi Shiny, don't think I've ever posted to you but have been reading your threads, and have seen you around posting to others with such great advice.
I am very impressed with your attitude and how your sitch has turned around so wonderfully! Your dreams intrigue me because I don't seem to have any at all. I do believe its my body protecting me from all the crap going on. I had one dream just a week before my H left. In my dream, we were standing in the street of where I grew up (H has never been there) and I was trying to convince him not to go. He kept saying he had to. A week later my H left. That was Aug 11, 2002. I had another dream a couple of months ago with him in it, but don't remember what it was about. I have the impression it wasn't a good one.
Anyway, you are a wonderful inspiration to those of us still struggling with all the heartache and having to find patience (from where I'm not sure of anymore!). I would love some input from you in my sitch. My latest thread is here in piecing. My others are in Newcomers and MLC if you want to read the drama.
You are doing a wonderful job and congratulations on getting your M back on track!
JL
Life is not measured in the breaths we take, but in the moments that take our breath away...
Hi Topaz, Hi JL!!! Welcome and thank you for your posts! You know, when you've been around a while you gather a smallish group of folks you check on, and who check on you when they can....you sometimes forget that lots of others read your thread!
About the dreams, ladies, I had a LOONG dark period where I remembered very few if any. In fact it's only been in this last couple of weeks that my dreams appear to be returning!
I ABSOLUTELY believe that aside from the alarm dreams (like you had about your H leaving Topaz, like my dreams of "the blonde") our psyche DOES try to protect us by having us forget our dreams before we can grasp them.
You're also right that we all dream every night, it's the recall of them that's the tricky part! I've solved that one of late by sleeping in...our REM periods are longest towards morning (or afternoon as the case may be )
Not much to report so far today. Woke up very early with what feels like a wee, partial intestinal blockage. Stabbing pains on my right side for a change! Gotta love when the body decides to shake things up!
I fired off some e-mails to folks at work (I had an important meeting, but figured groaning and cursing might distract the others ) and then crawled back into bed. Just emerged! CJ came in, curled up behind me and let me know it was not quite, but close to dinner time.
Thanks for acknowledging me. I haven't started a new thread yet. I will start one betw. now and Monday with history and current status. I'm not sure where to post. Piecing or Newcomer? H&I are working on M after H dropped bomb of wanting D in Feb. But it feels like I work on M. I know I'm projecting H's feelings, but it feels like H is angry at me, indifferent to status of M, and gives me the cold shoulder. I'm feel like I'm the outsider in his world right now.
Shiny you have given much insight. - I will also tell you that after 40 you can lose weight. I do not diet, but I changed my eating style. I follow low carbs on my plan. I'm concerned about diabetes as I get older, since it runs in my family. I have lost 40lbs. I will admit that part of the weight loss has been stress and earlier was lack of appetite.
Look for me in the future, I plan to visit your thread frequently. Thank you for the inspiration. Topaz
Hi MAL and Pan, feelin' just fine today. We had the weirdest day yesterday. After I slept til nearly 4 p.m. (CJ just jokingly told me I'd slept from breakfast to dinner ...sorry there wasn't more to that!) I BB'd for a while, then we ordered Chinese, ate. Then I went to read on the couch, CJ followed and we both napped until 11 p.m.!!! "Wasted days and wasted nights..." Oh well.
Today we're heading out to our pal's camp where a bunch of our crazy friends are spending our long weekend. (It's July 1st in Canada, eh? )
Topaz...No WONDER I couldn't find you anywhere! Please do join us in piecing. It's a smaller (but growing) group and those of us here are more likely to check on you regularly if your name is right here!
Wow Shiny! Thats' cool. I don't have many dreams but I did have a few when H was gone. Some involved ex-partner - weird and some involved wandering around a big house and realising that I was alone when I had come there with H and kids for a party. I just kind of lost them somewhere. The house was that of my midwife friend who birthed both our kids. So I guess I was connecting the fact that our marriage really started to hit the rocks when S was born.
Thinking about the part about your mum's house and where I was dreaming of ex-partner, maybe it's something about unfinished business. Maybe you wanted to go to your mum's house because you have unfinished business there before you can come home. Just my 2 cents.
take care
Fran
if we can be sufficient to ourselves, we need fear no entangling webs Erica Jong
I've solved that one of late by sleeping in...our REM periods are longest towards morning (or afternoon as the case may be 
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) and then crawled back into bed. Just emerged! CJ came in, curled up behind me and let me know it was not quite, but close to dinner time. 
