Been thinking about how to answer this one for a while!
BTW, I will stick to one topic tonight. However,disaster number one just occured.
But, foreplay, almost easier to list what I don't do:
No breasts - too rough, too gentle, never have been able to figure out what works for her. Doesn't want them kissed, sucked, touched, rubbed, fondled, pinched, handled etc.
No oral. This one has always surprised me, previous relationships always got compliements here. She violently objects.
No kissing.
No massage (my choice) last time I did this for her to relieve tension I hit a nerve cluster and she passed out. I am a big guy, over 200lbs, my wife is five two and 110.
What is left is starting with head or feet, and gently traceing fingers etc behind knees, back. I love exploring her body even after 14 years.
After a couple of minutes of this, she usually tells me to get busy (unpleasently) so I move to manually stimulating her. Only allowed to touch her there during the process. Only one hand, ony one or two fingers. She lays there with eyes closed. To my knowledge, she does not masturbate and will not touch herself during our time. She will move my hand as correction (always with exasperated grunt) when she feels something is not right.
The room is generally set up before hand with candles etc.
At no point will she touch me.
I have read Cosmo and every book I can get my hands on. Even stuff where surveys say "90% of women want this", she doesn't.
She will not try any more adventurous stuff to get in the mood either. I have asked her before if she had any fantasies etc. Nope. Want to try any of mine? Nope.
