Thanks Eagle - Honesty is so very important to me as well and I've told H this many times, even just a couple of nights ago (before I knew he had been in contact with her). I told him I cannot live with lies and deception. All I got from him on this was silence.
I'm moving in a couple of days. I'm not sure how I'll handle everything but I'm thinking I may tell H that we both need to take time with no contact and then go completely dark for a period of time. He can call S and S can call him but other than major issues, I don't think I want to communicate with H on a daily basis.
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