(((Jeff))) just catching up on your thread, sorry its been a few rough days.
Speaking from a woman's standpoint, I was in a similar situation with my XH. I felt like he had controlled everything for so long, and he went away for a year to Korea. The year of freedom...it taught me so much that by the time he got back I was a different person.
Im not hijacking, promise, but this may give you a little insight to your sitch.
I gained independence, and XH didn't like that. He was used to the way things were, and did not see a need for change. Of course, I didn't want to take any blame, so I blamed it all on him.
Eventually we split, but we did try, IC, MC, all. Once we were divorced, we both admitted we had done things wrong.
You are doing great. Your W maybe just needs time to feel independent. But the thing is none of us want to think we did anything wrong. Come on...we are all perfect, right???
Lol, but right now, I suspect she is feeling a tremendous amount of guilt, and it is easier for her to handle it by blaming it all on you. Remember, its not your fault. Its not her fault. It is just a set of circumstances right now that you are both trying to work through, in your own ways.
Keep your chin up Sweets. You are doing fabulous!!!
Lola
Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..
