I was thinking...if its so important to her to not be a SAHM anymore and to have a career and all that... could it be to give her what she wants? Talk to her about how she could manage a full-time job? When my BF was unhappy in his job back in 2002, I found a great Masters course and offered to support him whilst he gave up work to change his career...and he did and he was always very grateful (and this is how he repays me!!)
But could you leave work early every day to be there for S10 and S13 to take the pressure off her? Or pay for a childminder for an hour after school? I just wondered if you can acknoweldge and validate her need to work by making it possible for her to work full time and not just have to do a few shifts a week, treat it as a joint problem, not just hers?
You probably have done this already, so if so, ignore me!
ALi xxx
Me:40! H:37 Together: 12yrs IDLY & left 11/07 ADs 03/08 OW 8/08 Reconciled 05/09 now married! my thread
