As a WAW of nearly 5 months, I am distressed that I still do not have the mental clarity to determine whether or not I want to try to work things out with H or if I want to continue on this road by myself. I flip flop each and every day - sometimes I am certain that I want to reconcile and try to fix things, sometimes I am certain that it's all over and that I should just leave well enough alone and continue building my new life. I have always been such a level-headed, well-organized person, not much of a risk-taker at all (which is probably why my H was so surprised that I actually moved out), and this constant emotional limbo is making me crazy and exhausted!

For all you other WAS's out there, when were you finally able to make a firm choice on what you wanted to do? And how did you get there? I'm looking for anything that can give me some hope here...


Me (WAW) 30
H (LBS) 31
T since 6/10/1994
M 8/8/98
No kids
S 3/10/08
D filed 6/9/08; put on hold 7/14/08
D finalized 10/13/08